I have watched hundreds of people over the years spend a great deal of time discussing what makes one a lifestyle Dom or submissive. I sometimes wonder if they do so hoping the definition will be molded to fit them. Here is what I think:

I think you spend too much time analyzing and not enough time living. No one really cares about these definitions other than you. So shut up and go DO IT ALREADY.

From the archives of chat:
I spend all of five minutes a day in chat and the following was observed by me as I passed thru one particular bdsm room....

A male said about another male: "He uses bold black font hoping to hide his inadequacies" It occurred to me then.....I think most in chat are there hoping it hides their inadequacies.